Be You

My Story.
I am compelled to address a recent situation that happened to me, one of which, I’m sure has happened to you all at some point in time. Back in grade school there was a such thing called “peer pressure” and “bullying”. Although that still goes on in schools nowadays, I’m sad to say that some people do not change. Simple rumors as a child happened so easily by playing the game telephone sitting side by side in a circle within a matter of a 60 seconds. Today, with all these social media sites, people befriend you on facebook or follow you on twitter and all of a sudden because they exchange a word or two with you, they are experts at your life. It’s true, people will say that because your profile says the same city or they may have frequented the same nightclub, restaurant, or even associated with someone that you are familiar with, they can tell you your whole life story when in fact, they haven’t a clue anything of true substance. The statements that most people make about you are produced by the figments of ones imagination. Which brings me to my situation…
Social media sites have ways of heckling people with lies, bullying and peer pressure. A person of no credibility in your life can identify and attack you with harassment via words of defamation, which is what happened to me on more than one occasion. One thing that you as an individual need to remember is that some people feed their own ego by trying to demagnetize others around them. What the ego hungry person does not understand about themselves is humans have emotional energy that is magnetic in nature. That person who is attacking another individual is yearning for a release of their own emotional energy and they have identified a yearning for a specific energy. Something about the energy that I possessed caused this person to try to release her emotional energy towards me, yet she was unaware of the type of way to properly release it to attract my aura. Instead she identified her own insecurities and latched her woes onto my name and blasted out words of defamation and attacked the energy that deep down she wanted to attract. Furthermore, pushing the positive aura and karma that I possess away from herself. Because the social media of the internet feeds her psyche through public interaction, she feels good about any kind of attention.
My Choice.
The thing about me is that I am true to myself and I do not argue with fools. If someone produces a lie about me, and I know that it is untrue, what’s the point of developing negative energy inside of myself to argue and push the positive thoughts and blessings away from myself? There is no purpose for such thing. People always produce statements. The credibility of those statements end there. She was not a credible source to dissect me as an individual because she was not a friend of mine, she didn’t have a clue who my real friends were nor my family. In life, the only person that you should worry about is yourself. Pointing fingers are result of closing eyes in mirrors. For those who can’t open their eyes to the truths of the image in the mirror, they point fingers at others while standing with their backs to the mirror. If you are wondering why you can’t get ahead in life, think about how many other lives you are focused on. I’m sure they aren’t your own. There is a reason that some people are successful. They didn’t get there trash talking everyone above and around them. They created positive liaisons.
My Allotment of Time.
So regardless of what others say or do that is negative, try to think positively and not let them get you down or take a second of your time. Time can never be repeated, it just goes on. Spend your time wisely. Don’t worry what others have to say about you. You know who you are, and if you don’t know yourself perfectly, it’s okay. Just try to be happy with yourself inside and it will show externally. Prove to yourself that you are mature by not falling for the ways of the world. You can stand tall by being yourself in this world. Remember that one voice is powerful and a room full of voices is just noise.
“And above all, to thine own self be true.” – Shakespeare
Here is a song that I’d like to share with you:
“Don’t lose who you are in the blur of the stars. Seeing is deceiving, dreaming is believing. It’s okay not to be okay. Sometimes it’s hard to follow your heart but tears don’t mean you’re losing, everybody’s bruising. There’s nothing wrong with who you are…” – Jessie J


Practice What You Preach.
Do not dish out what you do not want the universe to spit back at you. You can throw stones at positive me. I’ll let karma haunt you. Prioritize your life and let dead weight go. Not everyone is meant to be in your life. If you are focused, you WILL advance. Social media sites do not need to know everything going on in your life, however, it is YOUR choice to share. The internet stores all. Sometimes you have to ignore the jealous publicly and pray for them in private. True testimony comes when your light continues to shine. Primarily people over the age of 21 need to begin to learn maturity. There’s a lot of my peers in the mid 20s behaving as negative children. Society will try to drag your name through the mud if they see that you are cleaner than their dirty laundry. Just keep a smile, argue not.  Your actions make you what you are. The content of your character can be interpreted by others via social media. However, be you. If you are single and enjoy going to have a drink with friends/associates, you can. That doesn’t make you less of a parent nor a whore. Be you.
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4 Responses to Be You

  1. Misty says:

    Tisha, my old pal, I don’t care what anyone says about u, u doing the thang and I’m very proud to be able to say that’s my old homie right there, continue to be the beautiful person you have always been, inside and out.

  2. Lori says:

    Very well stated my friend. Stay focused, remain faithful. “Hate” will always be there, its all about how you handle it…amazing how being beautiful AND bright is threatening to so many. Keep being YOU ;)

  3. Adonis Adebayo says:

    Tisha – I’m about to catch my flight to Chi-town, but I wanted to give you these words of encouragement this morning. …And so did the multitudes speak badly of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. …And Jesus, having been nailed to the cross, lift up his eyes and said, “Father, forgive them for they no not what they do.” God has created you for greatness… Live the Life!

  4. Glen says:

    You Are a Super Hero … Loved it all …. Keep Doing Your Thing … And God Bless … Heres A Little Something For You …

    Phenomenal Woman
    Maya Angelou

    Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
    I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
    But when I start to tell them,
    They think I’m telling lies.
    I say,
    It’s in the reach of my arms
    The span of my hips,
    The stride of my step,
    The curl of my lips.
    I’m a woman
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    I walk into a room
    Just as cool as you please,
    And to a man,
    The fellows stand or
    Fall down on their knees.
    Then they swarm around me,
    A hive of honey bees.
    I say,
    It’s the fire in my eyes,
    And the flash of my teeth,
    The swing in my waist,
    And the joy in my feet.
    I’m a woman
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    Men themselves have wondered
    What they see in me.
    They try so much
    But they can’t touch
    My inner mystery.
    When I try to show them
    They say they still can’t see.
    I say,
    It’s in the arch of my back,
    The sun of my smile,
    The ride of my breasts,
    The grace of my style.
    I’m a woman

    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    Now you understand
    Just why my head’s not bowed.
    I don’t shout or jump about
    Or have to talk real loud.
    When you see me passing
    It ought to make you proud.
    I say,
    It’s in the click of my heels,
    The bend of my hair,
    the palm of my hand,
    The need of my care,
    ‘Cause I’m a woman
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

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